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1. Happily Ever After
The Manifestation: The relationship just doesn’t feel like work. (Yup, it happens!) With this person, it’s easy. You bring out the best in each other, and prioritizing the relationship comes naturally to you both. It’s like you start off on the exact same page and continue the book at the same pace.
The Pattern: It’s likely you’ve both healed a lot since you last met, and you’re free to love more deeply in this lifetime. Let’s call this an evolved reencounter. You both stayed the course of your soul work, so when you met again, it was blissful. You get to pick up where you left off and take your love to new great heights.
If you were Romeo and Juliet in a past life, you’ve each spent thousands of years being true to yourselves, mastering your lessons, and fulfilling your purpose in spite of family dynamics or other circumstances you may have incarnated into since you last met. When you reunite again this lifetime, you’re already feeling perfect, whole, and complete. The bond can flourish and grow organically. There’s not a push-pull. Both of you have already worked all that out in your individual ways. You’re ready to align and amplify your powers through joy, pleasure, and purpose.
2. Counterfeit Connection
The Manifestation: All the feels of a soul mate bond, but something’s just a little off. You feel the connection, the intensity, the familiarity, the love…only it feels like an uphill battle. It’s confusing. If there’s so much love, why is this relationship so hard? You may feel like there’s been a bait and switch. You may feel suspicious or reserved, and you can’t quite justify your feelings based on the facts of the circumstance. They’re doing and saying all the right things, but you’re still having a hard time trusting them. It feels more charged than peaceful—so close but yet so far.
The Pattern: It’s been hundreds to thousands of years since your souls have connected like this. In that time, it’s likely one of you has grown and self-actualized and mastered the lessons presented to you lifetime after lifetime, while the other simply hasn’t grown as much. You recognize each other and feel super close, but you’re just in different stages of your soul’s journeys. Sometimes those differences between soul mates can complement each other—and bless you both, this ain’t that. In this connection, the differences feel like distance, frustration, obstacles, and pain.
Both parties are feeling the exact same thing: the depth, the connection, the significance of this bond. But you’re responding to those feelings in opposite ways. The more healed partner is elated by the connection and drawn to the chemistry. The less healed partner is frightened by the connection and overwhelmed by the chemistry. If you’re the more healed one, you might feel like you’re doing all the emotional labor here—and you might not be wrong.
Ultimately, you may feel like the relationship starts to bring out the worst in you. That can be hard to admit when there’s this much chemistry and synergy. It’s likely you’ll part ways, but not until you’ve mastered some of the lessons of this union first.
I call this the “counterfeit effect”: If you’ve been broke your whole life and this is your first luxury bag, you might be extra forgiving when one day this beautiful bag starts ripping at the seams. Maybe this is how all luxury bags are? You’re so grateful for the bag and so proud of yourself for manifesting it that you don’t notice the minor imperfections. Until one day, you pull at the string only to realize, gasp! It’s a counterfeit! You thought you were investing in something authentic, but it’s been a fake the whole time.
The deceit of the counterfeit makes most people a little angry. “This is not fair,” I’ll hear. “I’ve done all this work. I’m a good person. I deserve better.” To which I say: exactly. Rocking a counterfeit bag for a little while helps you feel worthy of the bag. It helps you align with all the opportunities and possibilities available to you here. Once you’ve acclimated to this new altitude, calling in the real deal is far easier. It’s not as big of a leap as it was before. You feel a healthy sense of entitlement to it now, where before you may have felt unworthy of it.
If you’ve manifested a counterfeit, you’re getting closer. You’re feeling worthy; your boundaries are fire; you’re affirmed you deserve the absolute best. Make way for the real deal.
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